Yesterday I was leading my meditation class and I find that I always teach what I need to hear. Most times, it comes without me even searching for it. I often read from Until Today! by Iyanla Vanzant. I love to teach from this book because it’s a 365 day daily devotional, and I promise whenever I open it, my eyes fall on the message I need. This week it was “Forgive your mother.” I KNOW. Trust me, we can all benefit from a little extra helping of forgiveness.
Iyanla said, “Forgive your mother! Forgive her not for the things she has done or not done, for the things she has said or has not said. Forgive her because it is the only way to open your heart to self-forgiveness. Forgive her not because you don’t have a right to be upset about the way she has handled some things in her life and in your life. Forgive her not because she was right in making you feel wrong, or because she was wrong when she failed to acknowledge that you were right. Forgive your mother because until you do, there will be a void in your heart.
Forgive your mother for the many, many times she was not the mother you wanted her to be. Forgive her for the times she did not do things the way you needed them done. Forgive your mother for not protecting you or speaking out in your behalf. Forgive her for not guiding you in the right direction and for the times she totally lost her direction, dragging you along with her. Forgive your mother for demanding things from you that she could not provide for you or herself. Forgive her not because you are excusing whatever she did or however it affected you. Forgive your mother because holding judgements against her has a devastating impact on your soul. The judgement you hold will eventually break your heart. Forgive your mother because the truth is, she did the best she could whether you would like to believe it or not.
Until today, you may have been harboring judgement or negative opinions about your mother and the way she did or did not mother you. Just for today, forgive yourself for judging you mother. Once you do, there will be nothing left to forgive her for.”
This was so powerful when I read it last night in class that I knew I had to write it out so that it would further penetrate the corners of my heart. I hope this passage helps you.
Be well! Heal well!
Love, Light and Laughter!